Then i canâ€™t see us being in each otherâ€™s lives if that is how she communicates.
When you look at the brief minute, I felt We asserted my boundaries, plus it felt empowering. But we all messed up and could have dealt along with it far better. More about that later on.
That we cultivated over months of getting to know each other was destroyed in a few seconds it took to write our texts from a triggered place as you can imagine, that triggered her abandonment anxiety, and suddenly, a beautiful connection.
Our reptilian child minds had been facing down, both feeling unsafe, and now we could not any longer hear one another.
Coronavirus would not let us hook up, so we had been stuck with all the worst kind of interaction, mobiles.
Wef only I could stay along with her in person and tell her this woman is safe and that We never leave i simply felt triggered and therefore i’m perhaps not perfect and like her, i will get afraid.
Her fear of abandonment made her ghost me personally and reject me personally she could get rejected before she felt.
A minute of our fear that is primal taking can destroy something which could possibly be great.
We extremely rarely share snippets of my journal, but today i am going to share so you can see some of my self-reflections and what I learned with you what I wrote down last night.
â€œMy training happens to be that when triggered, anxious, or fearful, donâ€™t communicate. Journal my ideas, thoughts, and feelings and appearance during the tale and my hurt inner son or daughter. Donâ€™t text.
When I have always been clear and calm, then satisfy or phone anyone. DONâ€™T TEXT. Then journal some more and let the emotions flow on to paper so you can see what is real and what is the past overtaking the current moment if waiting makes me anxious.
Then show in phone or person the way I feel and the thing I require. (más…)